Hurricane Oho.
I've been meaning to write this for some time, and I figured 6 months in ought to work just fine.
Kyle and I got married on October 10, 2015.
We were on the Oregon Coast, Cannon Beach to be specific, and stood up in a hurricane, (No really here is a press release from that day) in front of our close family and friends and linked our lives together.
The entire weekend was a rainy and windy blur, but I don't regret a second of it. I laughed and smiled, and was married to my best friend. A little rain ain't got nothing on us.
Since then, marriage has been an dynamic ride. We've adjusted, and stretched, and shed habits, and gained new ones. We've laughed, a lot, and learned more about each other than I thought was possible. We've reached new levels of comfort, and fallen in love again and again.
I was reading a click bait article the other day, entitled "12 Things Happy Couples Do Every Day." It was a listicle that described habits happy marriages have. While there were some worthwhile tidbits, the overall feel of the article made marriage seem like a cakewalk, full of funny gif text messages, and time for leisurely hugs and cuddles before bed. That is true. Kyle and I send funny messages back and forth, and text throughout the day. We also hug a lot, but usually it's when I'm feeling hormonal or anxious. Day to day, it's a lot less picturesque. More often than not, it's making deals about who has to take the dogs out to poop for the third time, or compromising on a Netflix binge session. It's a lot of weekends spent cleaning a weeks-worth of stuff off the floor, and settling for popcorn and smoothies for dinner, because the bank account says "you ain't got money for take-out."
Starting our married life, in a hurricane, surrounded by family and friends, showed us that sometimes life doesn't go according to plan. Most of the time, we have to stand up and take life's smack in the face, and smile stupidly regardless. Sometimes the most romantic thing that happens all week is your husband getting up with your dog so you get an extra 10 minutes of sleep.
Before we got married, I had this idea of how it would be. I imagined picture-perfect Instagram scenes, with lots of brunch and couple-friends to share the ride with. Sure, I saw us fighting but in my head I always got my way,(lol) and I imagined those fights ending with cuddles and Kyle lovingly stroking my hair. (lolol)
Now that I'm here, in marriage, every day, I laugh about all the things I pictured. Sure, marriage is awesome, and I wouldn't ever tell you differently. But, it's also like nothing else you have ever experienced. It's bigger than the stupid fights, and bad attitudes. It's something worth sacrificing the last good bite of your sandwich for. It's more than your own wants. It's more than 12 habits you start to make you life look good on the outside.
It's not that these 12 things weren't great things, but they weren't real life. Real life is a hurricane on your wedding day.
Since then, marriage has been an dynamic ride. We've adjusted, and stretched, and shed habits, and gained new ones. We've laughed, a lot, and learned more about each other than I thought was possible. We've reached new levels of comfort, and fallen in love again and again.
I was reading a click bait article the other day, entitled "12 Things Happy Couples Do Every Day." It was a listicle that described habits happy marriages have. While there were some worthwhile tidbits, the overall feel of the article made marriage seem like a cakewalk, full of funny gif text messages, and time for leisurely hugs and cuddles before bed. That is true. Kyle and I send funny messages back and forth, and text throughout the day. We also hug a lot, but usually it's when I'm feeling hormonal or anxious. Day to day, it's a lot less picturesque. More often than not, it's making deals about who has to take the dogs out to poop for the third time, or compromising on a Netflix binge session. It's a lot of weekends spent cleaning a weeks-worth of stuff off the floor, and settling for popcorn and smoothies for dinner, because the bank account says "you ain't got money for take-out."
Starting our married life, in a hurricane, surrounded by family and friends, showed us that sometimes life doesn't go according to plan. Most of the time, we have to stand up and take life's smack in the face, and smile stupidly regardless. Sometimes the most romantic thing that happens all week is your husband getting up with your dog so you get an extra 10 minutes of sleep.
Before we got married, I had this idea of how it would be. I imagined picture-perfect Instagram scenes, with lots of brunch and couple-friends to share the ride with. Sure, I saw us fighting but in my head I always got my way,(lol) and I imagined those fights ending with cuddles and Kyle lovingly stroking my hair. (lolol)
Now that I'm here, in marriage, every day, I laugh about all the things I pictured. Sure, marriage is awesome, and I wouldn't ever tell you differently. But, it's also like nothing else you have ever experienced. It's bigger than the stupid fights, and bad attitudes. It's something worth sacrificing the last good bite of your sandwich for. It's more than your own wants. It's more than 12 habits you start to make you life look good on the outside.
It's not that these 12 things weren't great things, but they weren't real life. Real life is a hurricane on your wedding day.
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